'Adolescence' Lessons: How To Raise Boys in 2025

Parenting has always come with its challenges but raising boys in 2025 carries a unique weight. Among the most pressing concerns is the rise of the "manosphere" – a network of online spaces promoting extreme versions of masculinity. Following the release of Netflix's "Adolescence", a harrowing four-part series about a 13-year-old boy who murders his female classmate, many parents have been forced to confront a difficult reality: their sons' world views are now being shaped by algorithm-driven content that thrives on controversy and radicalization.

"In a subset of young boys, we're seeing a complete rejection of the idea of equality amongst genders, and almost a more intense hatred for women and genderfluid [individuals] than we may have seen in the past," Jocelyn Bibi, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and therapist at Jocelyn Bibi Therapy, told Newsweek. "It seems some young boys are feeling strongly 'anti-woke', meaning that they feel they are perhaps being persecuted, or given less opportunities, than those of other genders surrounding them," she continued. Bibi believes this rejection of woke culture and equality is leading to a growing hatred among these young boys. While some online spaces focus on legitimate male-centric concerns such as fatherhood or mental health, others promote misogyny, dominance and emotional suppression of women in particular. "The 'manosphere' is an ecosystem of online influencers, forums, and video content promoting hyper-masculine, anti-feminist ideology [which] has a growing influence on adolescent boys," Alex Anderson-Kahl, a nationally certified school psychologist and founder of the blog 'Healing Little Hearts', told Newsweek. Anderson-Kahl said that parents may notice subtle but concerning changes around their son's behavior. Boys may start using terms like 'alpha male' or 'sigma grindset' and express cynicism about gender roles and relationships. Another red flag may be a previously open and connected boy becoming withdrawn, overly competitive or emotionally guarded. "He may parrot harmful ideas from popular online personalities or start consuming content that positions empathy, emotional openness, or equity as signs of weakness," Anderson-Kahl said. "These online messages often fill a void, such as offering belonging and identity, but at the cost of promoting isolation and hostility." With the internet shaping modern masculinity, parents can recognize and address these influences before they take root. Anderson-Kahl said that starts with healthy role models. "Boys learn what masculinity looks like by observing the men and caregivers in their lives. When they see adults express a range of emotions, admit mistakes, or seek connection instead of control, they begin to see those behaviors as valid and strong." Parents who talk openly about their feelings help to promote emotional intelligence, he added. Bibi also advises that parents monitor screen time and social media usage, and being aware of the platforms their sons are engaging with. "Open up a line of communication from the start," she suggested. "Tell them you want to hear about videos they're seeing; things they're reading. Let them know they will not be in trouble, since you know they don't always have complete control over what pops up, and that you want them to feel comfortable asking any questions they may have about what they see." Bibi recommends that parents avoid attacking their son's beliefs directly as this can make them more defensive. "Ask them how they feel about certain things and explore those feelings and beliefs with them. Nothing stops an adolescent more in their tracks than their parents saying, 'That's awful and you absolutely may not believe that.' Let them know you want to hear their perspective." In 2025, raising boys goes beyond traditional parenting – it demands awareness of digital influences shaping their beliefs. Anderson-Kahl said early intervention is crucial to prevent long-term struggles with identity, relationships, or mental health. He emphasized the importance of seeking additional support if their son shows significant behavioral changes like isolation, unusual anger, or concerning values. Professionals such as school psychologists, counselors, or child therapists can help address underlying issues and promote healthier emotional habits. "Raising emotionally healthy boys in 2025 means giving them permission to be whole, to lead with strength and softness, confidence and care," he said.